10 Portuguese Customs That Surprise American Expats

Every country has its rhythms and rituals—the small things that make daily life feel uniquely local. Portugal is no exception. For Americans moving here, it’s often the little things that stand out most: the late dinners, the ritual of saying hello to strangers, the unhurried pace.

So what are some of cultural aspects of living in Portugal that are new to Americans? We look at some of these little things that they cherish most.

Here are 10 Portuguese customs that might surprise you at first—and then win you over.

1. Greetings Matter (Even with Strangers)

In Portugal, it’s polite to greet shopkeepers, bus drivers, and even people in waiting rooms. A simple "bom dia" (good morning) goes a long way. Not doing so can come off as cold or rude, even if unintended.

2. Punctuality Is... Flexible

Showing up 10–20 minutes late is often considered acceptable—especially for social gatherings. Don’t be surprised if dinner guests arrive fashionably late or your handyman pops in eventually.

3. Meals Are a Slow, Social Affair

Lunch breaks can stretch for two hours. Dinners often start after 8 p.m. Portuguese people love their food but a meal is also about connection, conversation, and enjoying the moment.

4. You’ll Be Offered Coffee. A Lot.

Whether you’re closing a deal or just chatting with a neighbor, expect to be invited for a coffee. Espresso is king (called bica in Lisbon), and it’s more about the ritual than the caffeine. Indulge in some pastries while you're at the cafe, they are so good!

5. Modesty and Humility Are Valued

Portugal tends to favor modesty over bravado. Loud self-promotion or aggressive negotiation tactics may not land well. A more humble, measured tone builds trust faster.

6. There’s a Deep Respect for Tradition

From local saints’ festivals to handwritten paperwork, tradition runs deep. Bureaucracy can be old-school. But festivals? They’re full of joy, color, and food.

7. Family Comes First

Don’t be surprised if your Portuguese friend cancels plans to have lunch with their grandmother. Family bonds are strong, and Sunday meals are often sacred.

8. Queuing Is an Art Form

Whether it’s a bakery, pharmacy, or government office, there’s usually a system—even if it’s informal. Watch and follow others. And remember: cutting the line is a big mistake.

9. Driving Has Its Own Rules

Turn signals are optional. Parking can be creative. But you’ll also find drivers are courteous when it counts—especially outside big cities.

10. The "Calma" Mentality Is Real

Things move slower here—on purpose. From bank lines to home repairs, patience is a virtue. This can be frustrating at first. Then, freeing. "Calma" is how everything gets done so it is up to you to make it a part of your life.

Embrace the Differences

These customs might feel unfamiliar at first. But with time, they often become the very rhythms that make life in Portugal so rich and rewarding.

So greet the fruit seller, grab a quick bica and keep it "Calma" because that's just life in Portugal and you're here to experience every moment of it.

Curious about daily life abroad? Portugal offers more than sunshine and affordability—it offers a culture that welcomes you to slow down, connect, and stay a while.